well, the meeting went about as badly as it could have possibly gone. I went in and told them I want a 504 plan, the principal tried to convince me that the health plan he has currently is good enough to which i said clearly it isn't since you changed the policy and I wasn't informed. She then tries to tell me I was informed. Um hell no, cause I scheduled a meeting the second I found out. oh but wanna hear something funny, guess when the policy was changed, when they started allowing products with nuts into his classroom! the end of OCTOBER! they have been doing this for 2 months without telling me, had he had a reaction, I would have sued their asses. Anyways, so I say no I want a 504 plan they say ok. I said for starters there is to be no nut products in the classroom. She looks right at me and says "i'm happy to write up the plan, but I will not write in a provision for no nut products" can you believe that?? it gets better, she had the nerve to say that if I don't like DS being excluded, under my theory the whole class would be excluded. she must be a moron. if the whole class doesn't have it, no one is being excluded, oh but she said, we are welcome to have DS leave the class whenever there is a treat to make sure she's safe. Had my mother been there, i think it would have been this point that she would have jumped over the table at the woman. Even if I was ok with him leaving the classroom, or with him having his own special treat, that's not enough. he's 5, they're 5, kids are messy! I mentioned he had a contact reaction last year so this is why i'm concerned and i was told "oh well yeah but that's not an anaphalytic reaction" oh ok so being covered in hives doesn't matter? being sent to the ER isn't a big deal? sure that's not scary for 5 year old. the whole meeting just went around in circles, they kept saying they're doing what their school district policy says and what washington state law says. Their policy states that they have to "take reasonable measures to keep him safe" and they think what their doing is enough and they don't think me asking them to keep peanuts products out is reasonable. I even asked if they could hand them out at the end of the day as the kids are leaving, and that wasn't acceptable to them either. i found out today that the kids eat lunch, then go to recess then wash their hands. so i asked them if they could wash their hands on the way to recess or even use sanitzier and i was told that would be too hard to enforce. so i said to them, ok so if we bring in a mediator, (i was told to suggest that if they wouldn't co operate) and they said that's fine I can do that, but that they wouldn't agree to stopping the food in his class. so i said you're telling me that if you are ordered by law to stop you won't. she said well i would have to "speak to my counsel, the school's laywers" but if they advised her to she would. So the only way they will listen if i go all the way to force them legally. they told me they don't think they can keep DS as safe as I expect them to, so i said are you saying my son shouldn't attend your school, and of course they backpedaled a bunch and said "well you need to decide as a parent what you want to do"
i'm so angry with them. i didn't cry though, not til the very end when i realized how little these people care about my son's life. I teared up as I was walking out, i left the school and then i cried. of course i had to stop cause i still had to pick up DS but once i got home, i just cried and cried. I feel so hopeless. I never thought they'd refuse. never. apparently they felt his school was too strict and they wanted all the schools on the same page. i'm at such a loss right now. part of me wants to pull him out of school but then what? they have a duty to provide a safe learning environment for hima nd they're not doing that, how is that fair to him. How dare they say other kids getting their stupid fattening cupcakes is just as important as DS's safety and ability to attend school. they told me that i'm trying to put him in a bubble and that he could just as easily have a reaction from touching a door handle.
anyway, tonight i just sit here and cry cause i'm so so sad, but tomorrow, i have to fight and start calling anyone who will listen to help me get this fixed!