I've held this position for a LONG time: nobody should be feeding ANYBODY's kids in school WRT "celebration" or snack or ANYTHING.
This was a more "unusual" situation: not your Top-8 allergen situation.
PLEASE: Look at the numbers so far as "first time" and IN school reactions. (They are seriously HIGH -- nothing to bat eyelashes at -- and something you'd better think about as you look at liability insurance, including umbrella! Oh, wait. Did you think of that?)
of "keeping the peace" and providing food for everybody in effort to have own kid included and accommodating the food in schools . . . is potentially ANOTHER CHILD'S LIFE. It is not just
the price of the food you buy and provide . . . it is not just
the cost of your time and effort to "OK" a food someone else brought in.
The PRICE may be another child's safety and life.
And we come back to "atmosphere conducive to a fatality"
. . .