One more of our community's sort of unspoken rules:
A) Is it helpful?
B) Is it true?
C) Is it kind?
Here's the golden rule derivative that applies to us here, as a support group
The answer to those questions needs to be at least 2/3rd Yes. Everyone has a bit different style, but sometimes the TRUE thing isn't particularly "kind" though it may be both necessary and helpful as a response to another post.
Sometimes telling someone something kind because it's what they need
to hear IS helpful... even if the 'truth' of it is somewhat subjective or ambiguous. (Yes, you did fine managing at that birthday party where you left your rude MIL slack-jawed... or No, I don't think you flipped out about the BBQ shrimp at the company picnic... the school is being unreasonable... it's okay to walk away...). Sometimes people post because they are hurting and they need permission to feel the way that they are feeling. Sometimes they want unvarnished TRUE advice... and sometimes... they lack information (even if they don't yet know that).
We're happy to have new faces join us in our community-- we treat one another like family here. Sometimes that feels good, and sometimes not, but mostly it's motivated by a sense of loyalty and wanting to help keep one another safe.