Another thing that I feel slightly different about is how I view school nurses.
Let me start off by saying that I love our school nurse ... she's great and has been so helpful ... and I know she has worked so hard to keep my dd safe. Also, I wish every school did have a nurse as I feel this protects the kids and can save lives.
At the same time, coming from a pure patient/caregiver perspective, I have heard of situations where school nurses were not good advocates for FA families, where they sided with school admins in denying accommodations that seemed necessary.
I guess I view the situation as being complex. There is cooperation, but also often a kind of push & pull between the different interests of those involved: FA parents, non-FA parents, nurses, teachers, admins, docs, etc. The more cooperation & agreement - generally the better, but I look at it as a formal situation, kind of a negotiation.
Also, individual parent/student input is very important in addressing the specific needs of the specific child. Guidelines/policies are very important, but "necessary & appropriate" must be tailored to the individual.