HI, Everyone,
I know I'm a little late checking back in, but thanks for all of your responses! I did end up asking my daughter, and she told me she would rather not go (I was leaning that way anyway, but was so relieved to hear it from her. Oftentimes she takes my lead ... and I know that that won't always be the case, so I will savor it while I can). The environment was just too risky and, although we rarely pass up an invitation to a birthday party due to my daughter's food allergies, a party that is absolutely FOOD FOCUSED with little else involved, and in an unsafe environment to boot, is too much of a risk for us. I can't imagine her having much "fun" being there yet standing by and watching (I don't think I would even feel comfortable with her making and not eating these cross contaminated ingredients). Thanks again for your feedback!!