If you happen to be in Virginia and would find it helpful to know of a city that did have a bus aide as an accommodation--and for an older child, PM me.
I agree that an LOU is your next step. Be dispassionate in it. Describe the date of your most recent conversation and what your interpretation of it is. Ask for clarification on any points that you may be misunderstanding. And give them a date by which to clarify.
In this letter, I would also make a written case for this accommodation. You're documenting. And this is probably your last chance to spell things out for them in black and white. I would include:
--a description of your doctor's recommendation (and also a copy of the letter)
--a statement that your child needs an adult to administer epinephrine
--a statement that pediatric epinephrine is not necessarily carried in your county (I think I read that correctly). And if you have a written policy indicating that, include a copy of it
--some statement about the critical nature of receiving epinephrine immediately. I would site the AAAAI recommendations. I'm going to give you links to some deaths that occurred as a result of not having epinephrine early enough at the bottom of this. During a reaction, your child can't wait until EMTs arrive--even if they do carry it.
--copy the part of Section 504 that I detailed above that mentions transportation -- give them the law basically. Spell it out for them.
--refer to the attached OCR cases that are applicable (and then I would attach one I think RebekahC mentioned).
--refer to any state law, if it exists, regarding the transport of children with disabilities
--remind them that your child is guaranteed FAPE, just as his non-disabled peers are.
I might not keep hammering the delayed reaction line. Even if there is no food allowed on the bus, your child can have a reaction from peanut protein that is brought onto the bus from students riding it.
Okay--children who died because they did not get epinephrine soon enough. It's heartbreaking to read these accounts. It really is. But the fact is--in the event of anaphylaxis, not getting epinephrine in time can cost your child his life.
Jharell Dillard http://www.gadailynews.com/news/71833-teen-jharell-dillard-dies-after-eating-cookie-containing-peanut.htmlTyler Cody Davishttp://wsbtv.com/news/news/gbi-says-student-died-from-allergic-reaction/nDrXg/Emily Vonder Muelenhttp://www.today.com/id/21471171/ns/today-today_health/t/threat-peanut-allergy-very-real/#.UkM9E8ZwqSoAmmaria Johnson She died at school
http://www.cnn.com/2012/01/04/health/virginia-allergy-death/index.html