I think you know I live in CT. I am afraid I am not much help, though. I have not concerned myself too much with what the law requires regarding schools, because I have been fortunate enough to live in a district where it has not been an issue. The local schools have done a great job of keeping DS safe, and in general of inclusion (there were occasions when no one had thought of something that could exclude, but when it was brought up, they were happy to make necessary changes).
If you need any more specifics about our district, or anything else you think I might be able to help with, feel free to pm me.