It really, really is. And honestly, it contributes (IMO) to truly
profound levels of social anxiety and an almost pathological need to "not be a burden" on others.
Because our kids, at least some of them, have been made to feel that their very
existence is an intolerable burden-- and that they have no right to what they simply need to survive, because it makes others feel bad/inconvenienced.
How could that
not contribute to feelings of shame and a willingness to take risks?