Wow.. I'm glad she's ok now. I have seen so many restaurant workers/owners not taking food allergies serious. If I even sense they are bluffing or give me the "oh, one of these people" looks, I run for the hills.

 

So sorry for your experience, so sorry that it was from a friend. Glad your daughter is okay.

I’m so sorry, ctm. Nightmares are horrible places to linger. I hope they fade soon so you can begin to find some peace with the events of that day. 

Yes, Silver, he did text me the morning after.  I think my big problem is how complacent he was about the whole thing ... even before the reaction and also DURING (when he was trying to tell me that I was just being a neurotic mom!  You think at that point he would have though, "Hmmm ... did I even check these ingredients?  I better do that NOW!").  Also, he was not transparent at all in the aftermath, and we were really freaked out because we figured he had already checked everything and perhaps she had developed a new allergy.  It took me pushing and pushing before I got him to (somewhat) admit that it "could have been the bread and the ccinque cereali flour!"

OMG ... I could KILL him!  Kill!!  These recent fatalities are really tugging at my heartstrings and I am in a really bad place right now, even though I should just be grateful that she is OK.  It's going to take a lot of work for me to move beyond the "what if" that keeps appearing in my nightmares and let go of this.

 

So glad she is talking about her feelings with you.  UGH to getting her period!  Poor kiddo.  With time, the memories of the fun you had just might overtake the stress and anxiety of her reaction.

I agree, Purple ... it is just so hard for me to fathom his behavior, given our history together.  Suing him would have never entered my mind (not that I am seriously thinking it now, but I can fantasize, right?) if he had just acted more caring and compassionately.

My daughter is doing OK ... thank you for asking!  We are back in our comfort zone, and I think we never really realized how "comforting" our comfort zone was until we actually left.  Granted, we have done a lot of domestic travel in her lifetime, but even trips to the grocery store were stressful abroad.  I can't tell you how many times I would read labels ... in the grocery store, when we were home, and when we were going to consume. 

At one point in the trip, I went to buy some bus tickets, and hubby and two daughters went to the park to have a snack.  I did not know that they were going to eat without me, so when I came back and they were already eating I was a bit upset.  I checked the ingredients in the yogurt again while she was eating it (usually a very safe choice for us), and in my haste did not realize that my phone had autocorrected "nocciolo" (pit) to "nocciolina,"  which is another word for peanut in Italian ... of all things! Gave us both a mini heartattack!! (and this was before her reaction).

As I mentioned, the last few days of our trip were just horrible having to eat out, but we haven't eaten out since we have been home ... two weeks now ... and won't for a while.  She has complained about some leg pain at the 2nd injection site, and I must admit, I was not as gentle.  Also she has complained about dizziness as well, and I have read, both here and elsewhere, that that can follow an episode of ana.  However, she ALSO got her first period while we were in London (OMG!) and so I know that she is just teeming with hormones and that very well could be a reason for her dizziness.

As I said, we are both excited to travel again, and I don't think this episode will hold us back from that.  I will say that I was rather surprised when she came to me today and told me how much it upsets her that when she thinks about the trip, it is hard to separate the good times from this experience.    All I can say is how thankful we are that things turned out the way they did ... not everyone is as lucky.

San Crispino!