Posted by: Carefulmom
« on: February 19, 2012, 06:36:43 PM »I posted elsewhere how the party turned out (pretty uneventful), and will try to find the post and transcribe it here. I will say I noted moms reading labels to determine if the Hershey Syrup was okay for a milk allergy. Not sure if that was okay with his parents, no one told me one way or another. Anyways....before I knew it they were squirting Hershey Syrup in his bowl for him to dip his lemon bar in. (He apparently asked for it). The moms started making some comments, faces, and before you knew it the kids at his table (not my daughter) were taunting him with things like "ewwwwwwwwwwww, that's gross", that trickled over to other tables. I put on my stern face and told them NOT it's never nice to make fun of ANYTHING about another student. I got some "oh, were not making fun" and I told them "oh, you are". I told them then, it wasn't being a Bucket Filler. It wasn't "Kind", or "Responsible", or "Respectful". That put an instant stop to it. But really, if it weren't for comments of adults, I don't think it would have started.
Parents pretty much run these room parties, and there is a need to know as far as personal information or plans are.....but if there weren't parties, there wouldn't be a need...
As a parent of a milk allergic child, Hershey`s syrup would probably be okay, but it would have to be a fresh bottle. I doubt the moms thought of that. If the Hershey`s syrup has been used to squirt into ice cream and the bottle touched the ice cream, then there can be small amounts of ice cream in the syrup that was squirted into the bowl of the milk allergic kid. For some milk allergic kids, that would be epi and ER. How can the school not see that they are creating a liability situation by letting moms decide what is safe for a milk allergic child who is not their child? People are so food obsessed that they are unable to think rationally. They don`t want the liability of having a non medical person using an epipen, but they don`t mind having parties where food is served that allergic kids are eating without having the mom of the allergic child okaying it. That is just stupid.