Happily,
Many of the severe reactions have subsided.
However many of the symptoms still are here.
We have eliminated milk completely. Soy seems to be working well. If I do consume milk on accident in items I am out of it for 2 days and just tired as well as getting hives, coughing and being light headed.
We have discovered that lots of meat brines will cause a reaction. Particularly in Pork loins etc.
Veggies are still an area, but I get a rash and it goes away an hour later. This seems to be pretty minor. Granted we always monitor and have the pens ready to go.
I tried almond milk -especially for baking- and felt off, runny nose, coughing etc. from that. Tossed it aside as cross contamination after reading the label. Tried a granola bar same reaction. Then got some honey roasted nuts ( on the way to a friend's wedding of course- stupid stupid move) and had to take 2 benadryl and was about to use the epi when things started to settle down. Since then I have avoided nuts, but seem to do fine on items that are manufactured on shared lines. (Still very careful though).
We were eating out on a rare occasion at a restaurant we found and trust. We checked regularly to see if they had added shrimp/shellfish to the menu as they were new (owner and chef had food allergies and were GREAT about cross contamination as much as you can be). They told us they had not, then as I was eating my meal the owner rushed up and informed us the Chef and indeed added it. I had been feeling dizzy in the restaurant, and he told me they were deep frying in the back. We left and he apologized and paid for the meals. I was tired etc for the next 6 hours and got some hives, but it did subside. So, we're back to eating out nowhere... oh well.