Welcome!
Lots of us have been there-- sounds like you got the same introduction to all of this that we did when my daughter was a baby. She had her first near-fatal reaction when we were 'expanding' her diet at almost 11months.
She's now 13 now, and while I won't kid you about how hard those early years were--
it DOES get better.There are days now where I hardly think about my daughter's food allergies. Well, okay-- I think about it every time I think about food. But still. MUCH better than when she was newly diagnosed.
Just remember-- there are
no dumb or trivial questions here. All of us had to learn this stuff at one time or another. Milk allergy was by far the hardest one to navigate when my DD was little. It was everywhere that little kids are-- which made it really, really, REALLY stressful to do all of the stuff that you're supposed to find "relaxing" as a parent... like group play dates, outings to the park... mommy-and-me classes..
yeah. Well, your new normal is different from most parents' let's just say.
But it's possible to HAVE a new normal. You'll get there.