SL, I agree (as you know)...
but I think that this is the missing bit in between allergy/immunology and the psychology of management.
The line between the two things is so variable as to seem (to the uninitiated, at least) like a mirage, and nobody REALLY knows when it's been crossed for an individual except for that individual/his or her immediate family. And sometimes not even then.
Any one-size-fits-most prescription here is foolish and arrogant/presumptuous. I think that is what makes TT (and me, too, if I'm honest) so ANGRY at mental health professionals and professionals who really ought to know better than to make such statements (Christakis, anyone?) when they spout an opinion which isn't: a) based on evidence, or b) nuanced enough to allow for individual variance/need.
I mean, consider the statement "There is no reason for an allergic person to avoid all flying insects." Well, obviously this is true, at least so far as the surface statement goes. On the other hand, it neglects two important features-- allergic to what, exactly? and, just as critically, with what sort of reaction history?? To be afraid of a not-yet-identified insect... might be reasonable... but to be afraid of an insect that one HAS identified (and does not pose a true threat-- such as a moth to a honeybee-allergic person, for example) is not reasonable or rational. To treat all flying insects with a certain amount of caution until that evaluation can take place, though-- that's probably somewhat reasonable. KWIM?
We treat food the same way-- with suspicion until we can evaluate risk based on information.
For some FA children, avoiding a baseball game is unecessarily restrictive. For some FA adults, even, it's an unthinkable environment-- basically there is virtually no 'benefit' that would outweigh the risks involved.
That's what it boils down to, ultimately. The risk is real. This is not a phobia, and for mental health clinicians and researchers to TREAT it that way is insulting and misses the real issues here. For anyone to live healthily and reasonably safely with a life-threatening allergy requires accurate, continuous and razor-sharp risk-perception skills. When those go awry or are impaired for any reason, that is when bad things happen. Denial is no better than over-reaction, however.