I don't disagree with any of you. I do think in some ways that kiss did play a part in her death. But how many times have we been told that symptoms we saw with our own eyes or experienced ourselves were not possible? Are we making this up for attention? Heck no.
We know WAY more about allergies than the average person. So while we can make assumptions in what played a role in her death, the average person just tells us we were stupid and she died of an asthma attack - see the coroner said so and you are just blowing this way out of proportion.
And ugh, I was tired the night that I initially posted the response so I see where you are coming from. Do I think the peanutty kiss played a part, yeah more than likely. But I also think she did MANY not so smart things that evening - having asthma and smoking pot or having asthma and being around cigarette smoke to begin with even.
All the things we worry about at home when the kids are older (and have discussed with my older son as learning lessons) - certain things (ie drugs or alcohol) will lower your ability to think straight and make mistakes. For kids with no food allergies, consequences can be bad and in some cases even deadly but for you, with your food allergies, it will probably be deadly.
And how do I even begin to explain that mommy is well aware of when daddy eats/takes one of her allergens and she had to find out the hard way during an intimate moment
Really hoping another adult can share their experience with the boys because well, I will but I don't want to (and I am pretty sure both boys will just be fingers in the ears, you found me under a cabbage leaf and OMG you're my parents and you can't do that stuff). I may make one of you guys lie for me - you would do that, right?